What You Should Do Before a Divorce: Our Advice

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Breakup of alliance is a delicate period for a couple and a family. Here it is what you should do before a divorce. It is necessary to take steps to ensure the process goes smoothly for both spouses and children. Let’s review the stages involved, as well as the key points to consider before the dissolution of marriage is officially pronounced.

The Different Types of Divorce

Depending on the circumstances of the separation, spouses may or may not agree on the termination of the union and its terms. It is important to understand the four main types of divorce to know how to prepare.

Divorce by mutual consent occurs when both partners agree not only on the process itself but also on all the terms of the process. They can find common ground regarding, for example, the division of property, child custody, or the payment of breakup costs.

Mutual fault divorce applies when both spouses agree to marital dissolution but cannot reach an agreement on its consequences, and both bear some responsibility for the breakdown of the marriage.

Divorce based on separation is granted if the spouses have been living apart for at least one year and meet certain conditions. The spouse initiating the request must provide evidence of the separation (for example, a rental agreement for a new residence or proof of staying with a relative).

Finally, fault-based breakup is usually requested by one spouse when the other has failed to meet the obligations inherent to marriage. This may include infidelity, refusal to contribute to joint expenses, refusal to live together, etc. In this case, proof of fault must also be provided. If both spouses are at fault, the judge may grant a mutual fault divorce.

Note that the types of divorce can be changed during the procedure. It all depends on where the engaged partners stand at the time the termination of the union is finalized, which brings us to the next point.

Family Mediation

Dissolution of marriage is often a source of conflict. To better navigate the process, the help of a mediator can be very useful for several reasons.

Periodic marriage's evaluation can bring clarity and understanding about the state of your relationship. We all go through difficult times, and an evaluation test can help identify weak points or unmet needs. As we discussed, it is essential to notice the signs of a commitment that may be falling apart, and this test can provide a starting point for resolving conflicts and better understanding how you can contribute to restoring your connection.

What is a mediator?

A mediator is a professional who helps parties find an amicable solution. In the case of split of alliance, this avoids a long and costly legal battle. The mediator will address all issues related to the dissolution of marriage and its consequences, both family-related and financial.

What is family mediation?

As the name suggests, family mediation takes place between members of the same family. It allows for discussion and resolution of problems such as disagreements about breakup, visitation rights, reorganizing parent's relation or child support. In the case of split of alliance, this mediation is especially important if the couple has children.

Who is affected?

The spouses heading toward a contentious divorce are of course the first concerned. But they are not the only ones. It is important to involve children in these mediation sessions, if they are old enough to participate. These discussions, held in an atmosphere conducive to communication, help children better understand the reasons for the breakup and to more easily accept this family change.

As you can see, a dissolution of marriage involves many delicate steps and can drag innocent people into conflict. Involving children is an emotionally fragile process, with possible long-term consequences. That’s why, before the final decision, it’s worth trying once more to save what can still be saved, especially if those affected are dear to you.

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What to Do Before Divorce: Leaving the Family Home?

Daily arguments and tension between engaged partners often precede the desire for termination of the union. One of the spouses may even wish to leave the family home in the face of these tensions. Be careful – this may be used by the other spouse as an argument for the breakdown of the relationship. It could even be considered a fault that works against the one who leaves.

So what should be done before the marital dissolution if living conditions become unbearable for the spouses or even for the children?

In some cases, leaving the family home before the marital dissolution is officially pronounced is accepted by the judge. This departure will not be considered a violation of marital duties or a fault. The remaining spouse will not be able to claim abandonment or serious misconduct.